A Help(WHAT)?!?

It's been almost six years since I said "I do" to my husband. We actually used the words "I will" but for simplicities sake, our anniversary is in a month.

We had no idea what we were getting into. We were (barely) twenty years old and were completely crazy about each other. We didn't care that we were completely opposite in almost every single way. The things that drove us crazy about each other were the things that brought us to each other. The things that we fought passionately about were the same things that made us passionate about each other. It's just who we were... Ryan and Sunshine.

Over the last six years, we have grown exponentially. Individually and together. We have changed, drastically, from the people we were to the people we are... individually and together.

I am a naturally a "take-charge" sort of person while Ryan is naturally a "laid-back" sort of person. I am often too opinionated while he is often (in my opinion) not opinionated enough.

Yesterday I had some major mind-shifting revelations. I can't explain it. I would liken it to what Oprah would call an "Ah-ha moment".

Except it wasn't so ah-haish.

It was more like ... ... ... thank you GAWD!!

I FINALLY FIGURED IT OUT!

I am here to be Ryan's helper!! Not his boss, critic, devil's advocate, co-worker, or fellow church staffer... I am his HELPER.

I help him succeed.
I help him look good.
I help him grow.
I help him follow Jesus.
I help him live life!

For so long I have resisted being "Ryan's Wife".

MY NAME IS SUNSHINE!!! NOT RYAN'S WIFE!

But now...
Hi, I'm Ryan's wife, Sunshine.
My job in life is to love Jesus, love Ryan, love my family, and love my friends... in that order.

This "helpmate" thing is going to take some time for me to figure out.

If you're a close friend of ours, you're probably dying laughing at this moment at the mere THOUGHT of me being a wife who ADORES her husband instead of CRITICIZING him. I'm going to do it.

I think he's bringing sexy back in a whole new way. He's a hard working man who loves God, has incredible faith, adores his wife, loves his family, and shares his life with the people around him. He's loyal and content and extremely hot. I have no reason not to be crazy about him and crazy in love with him.

here's to the new adventure of being a helper to the one I love...